Happy Father's Day! If you have a great relationship with your dad, that's wonderful! Consider yourself very lucky. Celebrate it together! But, for those that have a strained relationship, Father's Day can be a tangled conflict of mixed emotions.
IF the relationship has potential to be salvageable in a healthy way, here is what I think. Today is Father's Day. You're going to think of your father today whether you want to or not. If there is even one atom in your body that is dancing for you to make contact, don't ignore it. Start where you are. Try to focus on the big picture. Is the love, respect, and caring there? It there hope for the future there? Is all the important stuff there? If it is, that's enough to build on. Don't worry that you don't have the rest of the world's version of a "perfect" relationship with your father. The fact is, you never will - and that's perfectly fine, because you are not "the rest of the world". (Not to mention, I don't think it even exists!) YOUR relationship with your father is unique, and so is the (manageable!) baggage you share. So don't let THAT idealistic, mythical mind-set get in the way of something REAL that could start TODAY if you are both willing to put in the work and are both eager and optimistic about rebuilding. Cheers! Here's to your future 2.0 relationship. Happy Father's Day! Now go pick up the phone.